Linda: One afternoon’s back-to-back appointments demonstrated that different individuals can need strikingly different things in order to feel loved. In the first session, Claire sobbed that she didn’t feel loved by her husband, Matt. He, in turn, expressed bewilderment and frustration, stating that he just couldn’t understand why she was carrying on this way. After being questions further, Claire, still sniffling, said, “You never tell me that you love me.” Matt had been under the impression that making a good living and supporting the family, along with all of the other actions that he took were sufficient to demonstrate his love for his wife. He knew how much he loved her and assumed she knew it too. He was introverted and shy and unaccustomed to speaking openly about his feelings. During the session, with awkwardness and effort, he finally did manage to say, “I love you.” The words were music to Claire’s ears. She hadn’t heard them for years.

The next couple came in grappling with the same issue. Jeanette stated that she did not feel loved by her husband Patrick. She said, “You are always telling me that you love me, but I wish you’d show it with your actions. I hate having to pick up after you all the time. I wish you would pick up your socks, put your dirty dishes in the sink and stop leaving your wet towels on the bed. You say you love me, but you don’t seem to hear a thing I say!” Words were definitely not what she was looking for. She wanted action.

We all have specific ways that we want to experience being loved. We tend to give what we want to receive: we can’t help being subjective. Wise lovers remember to ask each other, pay close attention, and generally act on the input they receive.

Happy couples live with an awareness that things are always changing, and they remain alert to those changes. They never put the relationship on cruise control and continually nurture the relationship. They take good care of it. They live in the important questions. One of the participants said, “I try my best to be a better person today than I was yesterday. I ask my wife all the time, “How can I be a better husband to you.” His wife replied that she’s run out of ideas by now for how he can be a better husband because he has asked so often and acted on all that she offered to him.

In Gary Chapman’s small jewel of a book, The Five Love Languages, he describes the most popular ways people enjoy having love shown: words of affirmation, acts of service, touch, gifts, and how they spend their leisure time. When I sat with my beloved to ask him how I could best love him, we had to add a sixth method to Chapman’s offerings. My husband said, “Let me go.” He’s introverted and loves his solitude. We have a busy, action packed life, carrying a lot of responsibility. He loves to go away on retreat for days at a time and speak to no one, have no expectations of him or any structure, and to follow the natural flow of the wisdom of his body moment to moment. I heard his request for how he wants to be loved by me, and vowed to become “the guardian of his solitude.” I now encourage him to have abundant retreat time, assuring him that I can handle everything in his absence. Since I’ve learned his love language, our relationship has moved into a higher zone of well-being, for which I am deeply grateful.

Source : Psychology today

Men and women are being advised to take up strength-bearing exercises particularly during pregnancy, the menopause or retirement.

Examples include Nordic walking with poles, tai chi, tennis, cricket, weights training in the gym or ballroom dancing. And carrying heavy shopping bags can help, too.

The advice has been issued by Public Health England (PHE) over concerns that the majority of adults do not do enough strength work.

But only a quarter of women and a third of men claim they achieve this – and this is probably an overestimation.

PHE is urging adults to pay particular attention to exercises to improve strength and balance in light of new evidence into its benefits in old age.

The Government agency carried out a joint review of existing research alongside the charity the Centre for Ageing Better.

This found that muscle and bone strength – and having good balance – greatly reduce the risk of falls, fractures, back pain and early death.

One study found that having a poor muscle strength increases the risk of a fall by as much as 76 per cent.

‘All adults should do strengthening activities twice a week’

Dr Alison Tedstone, head of diet, obesity and physical activity at PHE, said: ‘Alongside aerobic exercise such as brisk walking, all adults should be aiming to do strengthening and balancing activities twice per week.

‘On average we’re all living longer and this mixture of physical activities will help us stay well in our youth and remain independent as we age.’

The review also suggested taking up these exercises during ‘transition points’ in life when sedentary behaviour might otherwise increase.

This could include during pregnancy, the menopause, retirement or following a bereavement.

Nordic walking , racquet sports and dancing are best

It found that the best exercises for improving muscle and bone strength and balance were Nordic walking, racquet sports, ball games and dancing.

But PHE’s advice is likely to be regarded as yet further nannying following recent recommendations to cut calories and avoid snacks.

In March, its chief executive Duncan Selbie urged the nation to go on a diet and dramatically slash their calorie intake.

Two months earlier PHE had issued recommendations for parents to allow children just two snacks a day.

Jess Kuehne, senior engagement manager at the Centre for Ageing Better said: ‘It’s clear that we need to give equal weighting to activities that boost muscle and bone strength and improve balance rather than simply focusing on aerobic exercise.

‘Strength keeps people healthy and independent for longer’

‘There is significant potential to make savings to health and social care services if we do more to promote muscle strengthening and balance activities and recognise their role in helping to keep people healthy and independent for longer, particularly as they age.’

Moderate activity counts as any exercise that significantly raises the heart rate including brisk walking, cycling or swimming laps.

Strength training is anything that works the main muscle groups such as weights training or heavy gardening.

The review also found that strength and balance exercises could greatly reduce musculoskeletal health conditions – including back pain – which account for 30.8 million sick days in the UK a year.

source : Dailymail

Hari Kesehatan Jiwa Sedunia ( World Mental Health Day ) yang jatuh setiap tanggal 10 Oktober bertujuan untuk meningkatkan kesadaran tentang isu-isu kesehatan jiwa di seluruh dunia dan memobilisasi upaya dalam mendukung kesehatan jiwa.

“Tuberkulosis adalah satu dari tiga penyakit utama yang berkaitan erat dengan kemiskinan, yang dua lagi adalah AIDS dan malaria”, demikian yang dikutip dari laporan kantor berita Inggris, Reuters.

Fakta mengenai tuberkulosis

1. Tuberkulosis menyebar dengan mudah melalui udara. Ketika orang yang terinfeksi batuk, bersin, berbicara atau meludah, mereka mengeluarkan bakteri tersebut. Sedikit saja bakteri itu sudah cukup untuk menimbulkan penularan. Satu orang di dunia menjadi orang yang baru terinfektisi TB setiap detik.
2. Hampir semua penularan TB tersembunyi, pembawanya tak memperlihatkan gejala dan mereka tidak terinfeksi. Namun, satu dari 10 orang akan terserang TB sepanjang hidupnya terutama karena melemahnya sistem kekebalan tubuh.
3. Dari 1,8 juta kematian pada 2008, atau 4.930 kematian per hari, setengah juta adalah pasien AIDS. TB kebanyakan menyerang orang dewasa muda yang berada pada masa paling produktif mereka. Mayoritas besar kematian akibat TB terjadi di dunia berkembang. Lebih dari separuhnya terjadi di Asia.
4. Organisasi Kesehatan Dunia (WHO) memperkirakan bahwa 9,4 juta orang terserang TB aktif pada 2008, naik dari 9,27 juta pada 2007 dan 9,24 juta orang pada 2006. Di antara ke-15 negara yang memiliki angka tertinggi penularan TB pada 2007, 13 berada di Afrika, sementara separuh dari semua kasus baru berada di enam negara Asia — Bangladesh, China, India, Indonesia, Pakistan dan Filipina.
5. TB adalah penyebab kematian tertinggi ketujuh di negara miskin.
6. Rata-rata pasien TB kehilangan tiga sampai empat bulan masa kerja dan sebanyak 30 persen penghasilan rumah tangga tahunan. Bank Dunia memperkirakan penyakit tersebut menghilangkan empat hingga tujuh persen penghasilan domestik kotor di sebagian negara yang paling parah terserang.
7. TB yang tahan obat disebabkan oleh pengobatan yang setengah-setengah dan tidak berkelanjutan seringkali terjadi karena pasien menghentikan pengobatan sebab mereka mulai merasa lebih baik.
8. Bentuk TB yang paling berbahaya ialah TB yang tahan banyak obat (MDR-TB), yaitu TB yang tahan setidaknya terhadap isoniazid dan rifampicin, dua obat anti-TB yang paling kuat.
9. Angka MDR-TB tinggi di beberapa negara, terutama di India, China dan bekas Uni Sovyet, dan mengancam upaya pengendalian TB. MDR-TB pada hakekatnya ada di semua negara yang disurvei oleh WHO.
10. TB yang tahan obat secara luas, atau XDR-TB, adalah jenis TB yang relatif jarang. Antara 35 persen dan 50 persen pasien TB jenis itu meninggal.

(source: kompas.com)

“Jiwa Sehat Dimulai Dari Keluarga Sehat,” kalimat ini terpampang jelas di bagian bawah pentas puncak peringatan Hari Kesehatan Jiwa Sedunia atau HKJS 2016, 9 Oktober, di kawasan Patung Kuda, Monas, Jakarta.  Warga dari berbagai kalangan diajak untuk lebih memahami pentingnya menjaga kesehatan jiwa dan melakukan pertolongan psikologis pertama pada orang-orang terdekat lewat beragam aktivitas yang menyenangkan.

Sebagai solusi dari semua permasalahan tersebut, sejak tahun 2004 pilihan utama untuk pengobatan malaria yaitu obat kombinasi dihidroartemisinin dan piperakuin fosfat (DHP) yang dinilai lebih ampuh dan mampu membunuh parasit penyebab malaria ini. Tapi sayangnya, prose pengobatan DHP tersebut sepanjang 2004 sampai 2012 hanya disediakan pemerintah melalui Spesial Acces Scheme (SAS) yang ditujukan untuk pasien tidak mampu saja.

Hal tersebut telah memacu PT Mersifarma TM yang bekerja sama dengan perusahaan Tiongkok Beijing Holley Cotec yang berusaha meluncurkan obat DHP yang dijual di apotek untuk pasien secara umum sehingga penyakit ini bisa segera diatasi. Walaupun rencananya dijual bebas, tapi tetap saja obat ini harus melalui resep dokter terlebih dahulu sebelum benar-benar dikonsumsi oleh si pasien.

Dani Pratomo, yang merupakan production director dari PT Mersifarma dalam acara peluncuran obat DHP Frimal di Jakarta, mengatakan bahwa Obat dengan sistem SAS tersebut tidak memiliki nomor izin edar secara khusus, hal tersebut karena obat ini dikhususkan untuk obat yang sangat dibutuhkan untuk penyakit tertentu dan dalam kondisi tertentu. Dan inilah yang membuat keberadaan SAS susah dicari.

Dani juga mengatakan, keberadaan obat DHP ini yang nantinya akan dipasarkan dan didistribusikan di Indonesia dalam waktu dekat memang mengkhususkan diri pada daerah-daerah dengan tingkat kejadian malaria yang tinggi saja. Walaupun sejauh ini obat ini masih diproduksi di Tiongkok. Tapi setidaknya obat DHP ini mampu membantu masyarakat untuk menanggulangi susahnya mendapatkan obat SAS.

Menurut F Tirto Koesnadi, yang merupakan Presiden Direktur PT Mersifarma mengatakan bahwa obat DHP ini sangat aman dan sudah memiliki izin edar dari Badan Pengawas Obat dan Makanan di Indonesia, walaupun berstatus obat ini masih Obat impor. Selain itu, secara bertahap dalam jangka waktu lima tahun ke depan pihaknya berencana akan dilakukan proses alih teknologi sehingga produksi ini akan dilakukan di Indonesia secara penuh sehingga kita tidak bergantung kepada obat impor terus.

Obat DHP ini sendiri merupakan obat anti malaria yang mengandung kombinasi dua zat aktif yaitu dihidroartemisinin sebanyak 40 miligram dan piperakuin fosfat 320 miligram. Tentu saja dosis obat ini diminum tiga kali sehari selama tiga hari berturut-turut. Aturan dosis ini juga jauh lebih singkat jika dibandingkan dengan pengobatan konvensional yang selama ini kita kenal.

(sumber : http://www.sehataja.com)

“Legend has it that an observant goatherd named Kaldi discovered coffee in Ethiopia somewhere between about 300 and 800 A.D. He noticed that his goats did not sleep at night after eating coffee berries. He took the berries to a local abbot, who brewed the first batch of coffee, noting its effects on arousal and cognition.”

Some of its effects are strange and contradictory. In many ways caffeine’s effect on your mind is much more about what you expect than what it actually does.

Hopefully you’ll find at least one or two things here to surprise you…

1. Caffeine doesn’t stop most people sleeping

The goatherd Kaldi may have been right about his goats, but not necessarily about humans. Despite all the fuss made about caffeine and sleeping, there’s little evidence that it’s a problem.

The research finds that the vast majority of people have worked out how to use it. It’s not that complicated: don’t have a double espresso at midnight. Duh.

Even then, there are studies where they give people caffeine secretly before they go to bed. Surprise, surprise it doesn’t generally affect their sleep that much!

2. People blame caffeine for anything and everything

It’s not just poor sleep, because people think caffeine is at least a bit bad for them, they blame all kinds of non-specific problems on it: headaches, bad night’s sleep, feeling jittery, and so on.

Researchers sometimes give people placebos and tell them they’ve had caffeine. People subsequently claim to have slept badly, developed headaches and all the rest.

But it can’t be due to caffeine, because they haven’t had any. So it must be down to what we expect caffeine to do to us.

3. Coffee plus nap?

It might seem mad to have a cup of coffee and then go for a nap. But if you’re sleep deprived, this may be the answer.

Studies have tried giving tired people 200mg of caffeine (a cup or two of instant coffee), then telling them to take a nap.

The caffeine plus the nap often has an additive effect on performance. In other words the caffeine improves performance above the nap on its own.

Try it: have a coffee and a nap of around 5-15 minutes and see you feel. Even people who don’t normally nap can find this beneficial.

4. Boosts in sustained attention

Most people feel more alert after a coffee, but are they any sharper when scientifically tested?

The answer is: in some ways yes, but in many ways not.

The strongest positive finding is that caffeine increases sustained attention and vigilance. This is the kind of attention you need to keep doing a relatively routine task that is unchallenging. That’s why it’s often so good at work: it keeps us plodding on through boring stuff that we’ve got to get through.

This finding is particularly strong for people who haven’t had enough sleep, which is most of us nowadays.

When we stray away into other psychological areas like reaction times, learning and memory, things become much less clear. Sometimes caffeine improves them, sometimes it makes them worse and sometimes there’s no difference.

In general, though, there’s little evidence that caffeine makes much difference on tasks that require pure thought.