Do You Know What They Are? Linda: One afternoon’s back-to-back appointments demonstrated that different individuals can need strikingly different things in order to feel loved. In the first session, Claire sobbed that she didn’t feel loved by her husband, Matt. He, in turn, expressed bewilderment and frustration, stating that he just couldn’t understand why she was carrying on this way. After being questions further, Claire, still sniffling, said, “You never tell me that you love me.” Matt had ...